Lesson 34: Showing Appreciation

“One of the lepers, when he saw he was healed, came back, praising God in a loud voice” Luke 17:15.
“In everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” 1 Thessalonians 5:18.

In Jesus’ time, leprosy was much worse than a skin disease; those who suffered from it were considered “unclean” and thus lost their jobs, families and friends. I am sure all ten of the men whom Jesus healed of leprosy (Luke 17:11-19) felt extremely grateful. Yet, only one came back to Jesus and verbally thanked Him. The Lord commended this man’s act of grateful appreciation, which was recorded for all of history.

Giving thanks regularly is not only a command--it is good for us! Numerous studies, even by non-believers, clearly show that people who express gratitude as a way of life are happier and emotionally healthier. Giving thanks to both God and to others around us is an important habit for our lives.

God wants you to bless people by showing appreciation to those around you regardless of their faith, background or occupation. By doing this, you will be a great example of Christ’s love and grace, drawing people closer to Him. Showing appreciation should always be genuine and sincere. One person says, “Whenever I fly, I greet the flight attendants sincerely - thanking them for serving us in the skies today. I often approach people picking up trash at the amusement park, or directing traffic in the church parking lot, and thank them for doing a good job. In fact, I recently walked up to a total stranger outside the store and thanked her for putting her shopping cart back in the storage area, instead of carelessly leaving it where it could damage someone else’s car.”


There are many ways you can show someone you appreciate them. According to Gary Chapman, author of “The 5 Languages of Appreciation,” there are five main ways to show appreciation in public or at work: 1) appreciating through words, 2) giving tangible gifts, 3) spending quality time, 4) doing acts of service, and 5) appropriate physical touch. Let us talk about the first two for now.

Showing appreciation through words of affirmation is a blessing to almost anyone. This may include affirming good character traits or recognizing and complimenting excellent service. Chapman’s book points out that most people, including you, respond best to certain ways of showing appreciation. Find out and then practice those methods that most bless those around you.

Other methods of showing appreciation may be more tangible, such as giving small gifts such as birthday cards or thank-you notes. When you get great service at a restaurant, you may show your appreciation by leaving a generous tip. By observing people's behavior, you can quickly learn their preferred modes of receiving appreciation. If in doubt, follow the Holy Spirit's guidance.

Building relationships with others is much more successful when appreciation is expressed appropriately and in timely ways. Even persons who are hard to please will likely respond positively when you keep an attitude of appreciation as a central part of your relationship.

Pray that God will help you show people you appreciate them.